by Tammy Rowland
Does it feel like the road is paved in gold and it seems all you have to do is dream it and it becomes your reality?
Or is it like slogging around the base of a mountain but not quite getting your footing to climb it or you can’t find the path?
One reason may be that someone else set the goal for you. Not consciously but maybe they want something for you more than you want it.
Even without knowing it you may have set a goal you felt you “should” set based on someone else’s beliefs or desires for you. It either overwhelms you or maybe even under-whelms you. Hard to put your heart into something like that isn’t it?
Does your goal feel somewhat pressured, not in a good way? Do you feel pushed towards it, vs. drawn towards it? Like you cannot imagine not getting to the end result!
You may even want the goal but there may not have been enough thought or planning around it. Reality may or may not have an impact on your goal but put those glasses on to check it out if necessary. This is not to burst your balloon, but looking at all your options is still valuable.
Anything can be done if there is enough desire and energy to move you forward. If you have been less that “there” lately, then start with a smaller yet S-M-A-R-T goal. One you know you CAN achieve with a small stretch then make each next goal bigger so that as you take those achievable steps, you are creating an environment of energy that will make even the seemingly impossible, POSSIBLE!
I too have had a past full of goal setting where I did well, then not so well. In hindsight I realize that my aversion to goal-setting was absolutely from getting to a place of setting goals that felt I “should” do, it would look good, I would feel better about myself, etc.
What I know today is that a goal has to be driven by your Vision. The one YOU want for yourself. The goals are the stepping-stones towards it. You will feel drawn towards your goals and Vision in a way that feels like that path of gold off to OZ. All you need do is dream it, then be SMART about it!
Warmly, Tam
Tammy Rowland Executive Coach, Motivational Speaker
Tammy helps her clients make changes through productivity and self-leadership. She is the mom of adult children Kelly and Kyle and lives in Montreal with her husband Steve and old dog Max.
Please visit her website www.tammyrowlandcoaching.com/wsem6 to learn more.
