The escalating tensions between Israel and Hamas have seeped into the crevices of digital space and daily dialogue, permeating social media feeds, webpages, and conversations alike. Inevitably, the curiosity of younger minds will pique, raising essential questions about this deadly conflict unfolding thousands of miles away.
Children often understand more than we give them credit for. Rather than initiating the discussion with pre-emptive explanations, it may be more useful to enquire what the child already knows or has heard about the situation, suggests Dina Lafoyiannis, a Toronto-based child psychologist. It is critical to address their concerns appropriately and reassure them about their safety, above all else.
When it comes to explaining the current crisis to children, their age and maturity should guide the conversation. While it’s okay to admit that you don’t have all the answers, for older children, younger ones may need more concrete reassurances about their safety.
If the child has family or friends at the epicenter of the conflict, it’s critical to provide honest updates without causing unwarranted panic. Often maintaining regular communication and sharing information as it comes helps alleviate the sense of uncertainty.
In this digital age, parents should inculcate responsible information consumption in their wards. It’s essential that they understand the vastness and potential for misinformation on the internet and how to differentiate credible sources from false ones. Moreover, it’s important to keep check of the graphic images and news they may be inadvertently exposed to.
Dr. Shimi Kang, a Vancouver-based psychiatrist, advocates for honest conversation about such conflicts. She emphasizes that weaving core values of kindness, empathy, dialogue, and communication within these discussions can help children view such situations with a balanced perspective. Holding space for their emotional reactions and validating their feelings is key.
It’s also important to remember that help is readily available to those who need it. Psychologists and psychiatrists, helplines like Kids Help Phone, along with mental health resources provided through local organizations and school boards, can provide the necessary emotional support and guidance.
Stephanie Vasiliou, executive director of equity, programs and innovation implementation at Kids Help Phone, echoes the importance of engaging young people in conversation about these issues. There’s no right or wrong way for them to react, but allowing them to express their feelings opens up avenues for healthier communication and comprehension.
In these trying times, it’s essential to instill faith in our shared humanity. Despite the grim reality of violence, cultivating empathy, kindness, and hopes of peace among young minds can foster a more equitable future. For it is in these resilient young hearts and minds that the possibility for a peaceful tomorrow lies.
